sweetivandis

THE PINK PILL

And the opposition comes from within the black community. Meanwhile, the Becky who asked him the question looks like this...

Aint no one paying attention to women they aint dating unless they're as hot or hotter than whatever they currently desire. Social science researchers posit that black men's attraction to white women as evidenced by dating behavior and growing intermarriage rates is in part historically rooted.

THE PINK PILL - I notice this as well. Yet, like many black women, she is not immune to the twitch of anger evinced at the site of a black man with a white woman.

A lot of hate mail and hate comments was on there. She could be blue, green or yellow and it would have been her. Not even a little. There are four key differences between black men getting criticism of their dating choices rather than the other way around. Patriarchy allows for men to date and marry anyone they want. Despite all the complaining, guilting, lip smacking and neck rolling, a black man will ultimately and unapologetically do whatever the hell he wants. Check out the last 40 years of black men dating and marrying non-black women. Has it decreased or increased exponentially? Many of us have been vulnerable to the guilt-tripping about how us dating a white man is an insult to our ancestors, slave women who were chained to beds and raped. Reason 3: Women have a stronger desire to please. Women are social creatures. We want the approval of the people surrounding us that we care about. If dating or marrying a white man could lose them friends and family, black women are less likely to take the risk. Black men face no such ultimatums. Their homies pat them on the back, the black women in their lives may complain, but they will still love them and eventually accept the situation they have absolutely no power to change. But Martin Luther King, Frederick Douglass, Quincy Jones, Sidney Poitier, and legions of black men can. Umkay…no one accuses black men of not being black anymore when they hook up with white chicks. My focus if to try to retrain the brains of black women, so they too realize they have the agency to what what they want. It is amazing and life changing being around people that think the same way that I do in regards to trying to be better. I am recommending this to EVERY black woman that I know because I think this is for people that want any race of man. It's just about being the best version of you an dhow to present yourself with confidence.